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Louise Harwood |
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Six Reasons to Stay Virgin |
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2003 |
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These are Emily’s six reasons to stay a virgin. She discusses them
with her friends during a skiing holiday in |
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1. “I want to
do it with someone I love, who loves me.” |
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2. “Because 99
% of our friends exaggerate.” |
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3. “Because
most of the time, it’s a bit disappointing.” |
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4. “I like the anticipation. I wonder what’s
wrong with waiting, why we think we have to have everything so fast. Fast
tans, fast food, fast sex…” |
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5. “I can only
lose it once, I want to get it right.” |
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6. “Because if
it happens with the right man, it’s surely as good as it gets.” |
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Will she be true to her
principles? – This is what happens to her in the story: |
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Emily, a 25 year old girl,
lives like her friends in |
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One day Emily is out
shopping when she has to run away from a wasp in the changing room of a
clothes store. She directly runs – only wearing her underwear – into the arms
of Sam Finch. Sam is a good friend of her eternal heart throb Oliver’s, who
has been living in the States for six years. Sam normally lives near Arthur
in Cornwell, where he runs a rose cultivation called “Trevissey”
with his father. He is only in |
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A few days later, Emily goes
to see Arthur in Cornwell to become acquainted with his new girlfriend
Jennifer and because she wants to build up a new existence and open a little
shop there. Working in a little shop of her own is her big dream. Arthur
knows Sam and thinks he would be the right guy for his sister. So he invites
Sam to dinner together with Emily and Jennifer. At this dinner, Emily and Sam
get on quite well with each other; that’s why they make a date at Trevissey for the next day. |
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Six weeks after returning
from Magine, Emily moves to Cornwell where she
leases a shop. The day of the opening is also her birthday. All her girls
from |
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If you want to know whether
Emily is still a
virgin the morning after, you have to read the book… |
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Emily |
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is the main
character in the story and lives in |
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Oliver |
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has been in the |
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Sam |
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is the competitor
of Oliver because he has been in love with Emily since they were children.
But he never had a chance because he has never shown his feelings to anybody.
In his childhood he was a very good friend of Oliver’s, now they have lost
touch. |
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Sam lives with his father in
Cornwell and runs a rose cultivation called Trevissey. |
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Arthur |
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is Emily’s elder
brother and lives in Cornwell, too. He supports his sister in every
situation. His new girlfriend Jennifer is a bit special but after a while
Emily and her become good friends. |
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Holly |
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is a good friend of
Emily’s and lives in |
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Caitlin |
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is a friend of
Emily’s and lives in |
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Her boyfriend is Leon, who
enjoys the holiday in Magine too |
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The thing which has kept us
interested is the conflict of the two attitudes of Caitlin and Emily. On the
one hand we can understand Emily’s way of looking at things, but on the other
Caitlin’s way of life, her style and what she does are also understandable
for us. |
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Sometimes there is not
enough action and reading gets a bit boring – but you always want to know
what happens with Emily in the end, if she either loses her virginity or
falls in love with Sam – or both. |
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The book is written in a
language that is easy to read and understand. We recommend it to someone who
likes his reading to provide light entertainment. It’s suitable for lazy
deck-chair holidays. |
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The main topic of our book is virginity, that’s why we want to write
something about this theme as well. |
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For some girls virginity is like a big treasure which they keep with a
lot of honour and pride. They can’t understand women who are enjoying their
sex life and show their sexuality. In their eyes, most men are only
interested in the body of a girl. Because of this, they often don’t realise
when they have found the right guy. In some cases, girls want to wait with
having sex till after the wedding. If religious reasons are behind this
attitude, we think waiting is absolutely okay. But we can’t agree with girls
who think the paper which husband and wife sign with their names is a promise
or a guarantee for having a good partner, a good, eternal relationship, good
sex and getting on well together (for example in bed). After ten years of
marriage, you can realize that your partner isn’t or wasn’t Mr Right and you have to get a divorce. And maybe you can’t get along with
your partner in bed because you don’t share the same likings or because you
are disappointed and reality is completely different from what you have
imagined. Even though sex isn’t the only foundation of a relationship, it is
important! Not only for the fun factor: Sleeping with someone has also the
meaning of sharing emotions and feelings, being near to your partner and also
sharing experiences, getting to know you and your partner better or in a
different way. We think, you can do without sex until after the wedding if you
really want it and
if you have a tolerant partner. But nevertheless, who wants to
buy a pig in a poke?! |
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For other girls, virginity is like a present which they want to make
to a special man. For them the feelings are very important, because only the
guy who really loves them is it worth getting such a rare present. Love is a
strong feeling and very important for sex. If there is love between both
partners, the first step has been made. And maybe you can enjoy sex more
relaxed (especially when you are losing your virginity) if you know about the
true feelings of your partner. In our opinion love is necessary for sex, not
only for the “first time”; love makes sex in a way “better”, because sex is
much more than a physical act. |
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It’s sad that a lot of people listen to friends and their
sex-adventures; not half of them are true! No virgin is a bad person because
he/she hasn’t had sex! So nobody should be under pressure because of the talk
of such sex-experienced friends! Losing one’s virginity only to be “in” is a
huge mistake! Take your time and wait until you are ready for it! |
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For the last group of girls, sex is something very difficult and they
are afraid of making mistakes. That’s why they want to wait with losing their
virginity until they die! Even though the first time is special, you mustn’t
be afraid of it. Nearly every person has some doubts about it! And believe us, it is worth this little risk :-)! You can’t make any
mistakes if you trust your feelings and your instinct. |
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We have both the same opinion about the “first time”: There is not a
right age or right location for having sex. If you can trust your partner,
discuss your fears and wishes in sex with him or her, if you are sure of your
feelings and there are no more questions about contraception, you will feel
when it’s the right moment for sleeping with each other. The “right moment”
is a different one for everybody! |
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If you have a healthy, good relation to yourself and your body, you
will enjoy your life with or without sex. |
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